Comments on: 5.3.3 Friendship: the Content and the Void http://realsteveholmes.com/583/5-3-3-friendship-the-content-and-the-void NO TEACHER · NO METHOD · NO GURU · NO PERSONAL COACH · NO MYERS BRIGGS Thu, 25 Mar 2010 20:10:13 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Cora http://realsteveholmes.com/583/5-3-3-friendship-the-content-and-the-void/comment-page-1#comment-231 Cora Wed, 26 Aug 2009 12:57:54 +0000 http://realsteveholmes.com/?p=583#comment-231 Your questions are worth some pondering, Ann... Surely this void is a gap in ourselves. Perhaps we should define to each other what we understand by issues like friendship and its conditions.For instance, how do we find out when we are feeling something on the same level, the same extent... Should we write a pledge with conditions and a get-out clause... Your questions are worth some pondering, Ann…
Surely this void is a gap in ourselves.
Perhaps we should define to each other what we understand by issues like friendship and its conditions.For instance, how do we find out when we are feeling something on the same level, the same extent…
Should we write a pledge with conditions and a get-out clause…

]]> By: AnnG http://realsteveholmes.com/583/5-3-3-friendship-the-content-and-the-void/comment-page-1#comment-227 AnnG Tue, 25 Aug 2009 12:54:27 +0000 http://realsteveholmes.com/?p=583#comment-227 Perhaps it is isn't only friendship that works in this way? If there is a void, surely it is in us? And thus it is probably impossible to fill it from any external source - whether that is love, or friendship, achievement oor worldly success...or even chocolate? I do see that in friendship we can sometimes become very demanding and start to take each other for granted. Maybe it is the nature of relationships that they always matter more to one party than to another? Or perhaps it is just that there is a natural waxing and waning - a dance of one party wanting more and the other feeling overwhelmed... Perhaps the ideal friendship must then be one where the feeling on both sides is equal - whether passionately equal or more detached? Perhaps it is isn’t only friendship that works in this way?

If there is a void, surely it is in us? And thus it is probably impossible to fill it from any external source – whether that is love, or friendship, achievement oor worldly success…or even chocolate?

I do see that in friendship we can sometimes become very demanding and start to take each other for granted. Maybe it is the nature of relationships that they always matter more to one party than to another?

Or perhaps it is just that there is a natural waxing and waning – a dance of one party wanting more and the other feeling overwhelmed…

Perhaps the ideal friendship must then be one where the feeling on both sides is equal – whether passionately equal or more detached?

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