I never knew how precious time would become

Saturday, 20. June 2009

First posted and largely ignored on Ecademy in June 2005 when my late wife was a year from death by cancer. Please do not be afraid to respond. we all have tragedies in our lives…

After a shaky start I’ve had a reasonable life with some successes and failures but I never knew how precious time would become. Nobody warns you how much your perspective will change, or if they do you take no notice and if they did I don’t remember. I’m not sure there were any wise old elders in my tribe who could pass on such knowledge.

So I lost myself as I guess most people do, in planning tomorrow and half-heartedly doing now while saving something back for tomorrow, for which I was always working, saving, hoping and dreaming. But I always left the most important thing out of the equation, because I never knew how precious time would become.

I’m not complaining, far from it – glad I got this far and though I never challenged any of my heroes I’ve been quite good at what I have done, good enough to replace satisfaction for the things I really wanted with the conceited arrogance of professional expertise. You see, I never knew how precious time would become.

It started to dawn on me two years ago when my friend Beatrice the dog died of lymphoma within three months and her death after much suffering came as a blessing. Christmas Eve that year took my mum with two hours to go before I was due to phone her. Now my wife is fighting the monster illness the eats your soul away with your body, right in front of your eyes.

I am fifty-six and I still haven’t accomplished the main goal of my life. But now I really do know how precious time can become and I’m saying to everyone younger then me in case they want to listen: live your dreams; savour your life; seize your opportunities; follow your star; appreciate your gifts and for God’s sake know how precious is the time you’ve been given.

Within all of this, what we call “business” isn’t all that important. Only people matter, and the way we spend our time.

2 Responses to “I never knew how precious time would become”

  1. Abdo Says:

    One of the most beautiful advice could be ever written, I’m quite young myself, but I think I’m living from years with that attitude of catching up with something that you never get. Where it’s all work, business and worrying and at the end you never get satisfied.

    Like Jesus (Peace and Blessings Be Upon Him) said in his prayers: “Our bread for this day, give us today”. Not worrying about tomorrow’s bread! Because tomorrow is a new day with new prayers and a new bread.

  2. VLAHAKISA Says:

    It’s very easy to get caught up in the mess that is every day life and loose sight of what is really important but we all do it.

    Sorry for your losses Steve.


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